How to stop being a people pleaser in 3 simple steps

Are you overly agreeable and amenable? Are you often called a people-pleaser? Do you sbobet resmi struggle to say no when your boss asks you to take on more work than you could possibly account for in one day, or when asked to (once again) plan the office morning tea? Then this guide is for you.

Let’s hold hands and stroll through the past to recap our favourite people-pleasing moments at work, shall we?

Remember that time you did a favour for another team and ended up with the task permanently in your lap? So funny! Or that time when your colleague said: “You’re the only one who knows how to do this right. Will you help us out? You’re such a great team player.” What a lark! Or that time when you found yourself volunteering to do a task that nobody else in the team wanted to do, including you. Such good times! On second thought, not such good times.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we say yes? Why can’t we say no? Because we’re people pleasers.

Let’s face it, the thought of letting others down is as awful as the idea of saying no to their actual face. You want to be a team player. You want to be easy to work with, helpful, supportive, nice.

You want people to like you, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s normal. It’s our human wiring to want to play nicely with others.

It’s also a major stumbling block to being effective at work, especially when putting others first means putting ourselves last. And therein lies the rub. How do we help ourselves, without feeling like we are letting others down? That’s where the guide comes in.

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